Stop blaming

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes.

One morning, when the boy was around two years old, the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and put it in the cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to it and, fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages.

When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned; she was terrified. How would she face her husband?

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.

“I Love You Darling.”

The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he have taken time to put the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No point in attaching blame. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who’s to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know and miss out on the warmth in human relationships we could receive by giving each other support.

After all, shouldn’t forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do?

Treasure what you have. Don’t multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding onto forgiveness. Let go of all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

If everyone could look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be fewer problems in the world.

 Source: Facebook

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Is this a true story? Really? Naaahhhh....mesti tipu je ni.

Hakikatnya kita masyarakat menghukum. Memang dah diajar sejak kecik, kalau buat salah je first question mak akan tanya "Siapa punye keje ni?!". Dari kecik sampai ke besar. Dah besar ni kita belajar dari pemimpin jugak "Ini semua salah pembangkang. Pembangkang tak mentadbir negeri dengan telus. Pilihlah National Line, Janji Dicapati!"

"There is always two sides of a coin"

Nilai sesuatu tu berdasarkan banyak sudut. Macam cerita kat atas, kalau dalam drama Melayu dah kene ayat ni "Ini semua salah awak, tak pandai jaga anak!". Tapi sebenarnya salah suami tu sendiri kan. Look things at all angle, bukan satu sudut dan menyalahkan satu pihak saja.

Kenapa ek semua salah mesti jadi salah mak? Anak tu lahir macam versi Mariam yang takde suami ke macam mana? Then how mom always wrong?

Sebelum kita tanya orang apa yang orang tak buat, tanya diri kita sendiri dulu apa yang kita dah buat. 

Setiap perkara terjadi atas kelakuan semua orang. Butterfly effect. Setiap apa yang kau buat, ada effectnye pada orang lain, you have the share. So don't blame, don't judge. Muhasabah diri.